Ramadhan was approaching everyone was busy buying foodstuff, all supermarkets were full with people pushing trolleys full of foodstuff. You will think that there was a public announcement of an impending food shortage. My mother was one of the culprits going around shopping until our freezers and fridges were all full. I never could understand this mentality, everything is abundant why do we have to stock all the foodstuff enough to feed an army.
Sara did not have to qeue in the shops as all Ramadhan we had iftar at my parents home. My parents had open house policy in Ramadhan Many of our relatives and friends came for Iftar . The atmosphere was beautiful, we broke our fast and prayed Maghreb prayers and later the ladies and men went to the near mosque for Isha and Taraweh prayers.As malls and cafes are opened till very late the young ones go shopping or to cafes for drinks or sheesha. Unfortunately sheesha has become the thing in this part of the world.
On the 10th of Ramadhan it was Tamara's first birthday so my friends and cousins brought their children and we had a birthday party for her. Her mother dressed her in a light green cute dress and she had a paper birthday hat . She was helped to cut her cake by her older cousins and all the little ones had a blast playing outside in the garden . Tamara gota lot of gifts ,push cars, dolls,prams etc.
After Ramadhan it was Sara 's birthday. We planned a surprise party at . Nobus restaurant . My friends arrived before Sara came, and she walked in with Shemsa and she was surprised to see all our friends. w We had a lovely dinner and Sara received many birthday gifts i bought her a diamond and pearl jewelry set. She was very happy that most of our friends were there to celebrate her birthday.
Next day ,my mother 's Philippine maid came to inform her that Tamara fell down and her eye was bleeding. She got this information from Sara's maid. My mother called Sara to check on Tamara and she said she was rushing to the hospital. After half an hour she called Sara to check on Tamara who said they were transferred to an ENT specialist. My parents were very concerned and drove to the hospital to check on Tamara .Luckily her eye was not damaged but she had a scratch on her cornea and according to the doctor it will heal with time. Sara told my mother that she will get rid of the maid as she was irresponsible and secondly she was giving out their secrets. My mum was surprised what secrets do they have? She told Sara it was an accident and she did not do it on purpose and thank God Tamara is ok.
The maid calles my mum to inform her that Sara slapped her and pushed her and she had bruises on her face and chest. In addition she threatened to take her to the police for harming her daughter and would kill her if anything happens to Tamara.The maid said she did not want to work with them anymore. In the evening my parents came over to check on Tamara and the maid complained to them about Sara beating her. My mother took Sara aside and told her that abusing maids was not acceptable and she could revenge on Tamara . Also the maid could report her to the police . My mother advised her to release the maid since she does not trust her with her baby. Sara did not want the maid but at the same time did not want to release her because she knew that she would not be able to take care of Tamara and do cooking and cleaning.An agreement was reached were the maid stayed temporarily until a substitute was recruited. This would be her fourth maid
When my parents left Sara was in a very bad mood she said she did not want anyone to interfere in her life and she had the right to decide when to tell my parents if Tamara is hurt or sick or hospitalized. She will inform them when it is suitable for her. Also she will not send her new maid to my parents house. I told Sara you can do what you want but this will be the last maid i will bring for you. When my mother called the next day to check on Tamara ,Sara told my mum that she will decide when to tell her anything regardingTamara. My mother was surprised at her behaviour. Her reasoning was that she did not call her mother who was abroad, my mother explained to her that they have always been here for Tamara and they loved her a lot and as grandparents they should be told if she is hurt ,they were there to support them and most all to pray and read duas for Tamara to get better.
Tamara's accident was a turning point in my relationship with Sara. She started complaining about my parents interference, she talked to two of my aunt's that my mother had no right to know anything until she herself tells her etc etc. My mother decided that from now on she will have her life and not sit and babysit for them whenever they decide to drop Tamara she demanded to be given advance notice.I could see that the relationship between my mother and Sara had got sour but my mother welcomed her whenever she went home and did not show her that she disapproved her attitude.
The last few days Sara had iftar at Rana's and she was always moody. Most probably Ramadhan was wearing her down. I did not give it much thought I figured soon it will be Idd and every thing will be fine.
Sara did not have to qeue in the shops as all Ramadhan we had iftar at my parents home. My parents had open house policy in Ramadhan Many of our relatives and friends came for Iftar . The atmosphere was beautiful, we broke our fast and prayed Maghreb prayers and later the ladies and men went to the near mosque for Isha and Taraweh prayers.As malls and cafes are opened till very late the young ones go shopping or to cafes for drinks or sheesha. Unfortunately sheesha has become the thing in this part of the world.
On the 10th of Ramadhan it was Tamara's first birthday so my friends and cousins brought their children and we had a birthday party for her. Her mother dressed her in a light green cute dress and she had a paper birthday hat . She was helped to cut her cake by her older cousins and all the little ones had a blast playing outside in the garden . Tamara gota lot of gifts ,push cars, dolls,prams etc.
After Ramadhan it was Sara 's birthday. We planned a surprise party at . Nobus restaurant . My friends arrived before Sara came, and she walked in with Shemsa and she was surprised to see all our friends. w We had a lovely dinner and Sara received many birthday gifts i bought her a diamond and pearl jewelry set. She was very happy that most of our friends were there to celebrate her birthday.
Next day ,my mother 's Philippine maid came to inform her that Tamara fell down and her eye was bleeding. She got this information from Sara's maid. My mother called Sara to check on Tamara and she said she was rushing to the hospital. After half an hour she called Sara to check on Tamara who said they were transferred to an ENT specialist. My parents were very concerned and drove to the hospital to check on Tamara .Luckily her eye was not damaged but she had a scratch on her cornea and according to the doctor it will heal with time. Sara told my mother that she will get rid of the maid as she was irresponsible and secondly she was giving out their secrets. My mum was surprised what secrets do they have? She told Sara it was an accident and she did not do it on purpose and thank God Tamara is ok.
The maid calles my mum to inform her that Sara slapped her and pushed her and she had bruises on her face and chest. In addition she threatened to take her to the police for harming her daughter and would kill her if anything happens to Tamara.The maid said she did not want to work with them anymore. In the evening my parents came over to check on Tamara and the maid complained to them about Sara beating her. My mother took Sara aside and told her that abusing maids was not acceptable and she could revenge on Tamara . Also the maid could report her to the police . My mother advised her to release the maid since she does not trust her with her baby. Sara did not want the maid but at the same time did not want to release her because she knew that she would not be able to take care of Tamara and do cooking and cleaning.An agreement was reached were the maid stayed temporarily until a substitute was recruited. This would be her fourth maid
When my parents left Sara was in a very bad mood she said she did not want anyone to interfere in her life and she had the right to decide when to tell my parents if Tamara is hurt or sick or hospitalized. She will inform them when it is suitable for her. Also she will not send her new maid to my parents house. I told Sara you can do what you want but this will be the last maid i will bring for you. When my mother called the next day to check on Tamara ,Sara told my mum that she will decide when to tell her anything regardingTamara. My mother was surprised at her behaviour. Her reasoning was that she did not call her mother who was abroad, my mother explained to her that they have always been here for Tamara and they loved her a lot and as grandparents they should be told if she is hurt ,they were there to support them and most all to pray and read duas for Tamara to get better.
Tamara's accident was a turning point in my relationship with Sara. She started complaining about my parents interference, she talked to two of my aunt's that my mother had no right to know anything until she herself tells her etc etc. My mother decided that from now on she will have her life and not sit and babysit for them whenever they decide to drop Tamara she demanded to be given advance notice.I could see that the relationship between my mother and Sara had got sour but my mother welcomed her whenever she went home and did not show her that she disapproved her attitude.
The last few days Sara had iftar at Rana's and she was always moody. Most probably Ramadhan was wearing her down. I did not give it much thought I figured soon it will be Idd and every thing will be fine.
