Sara called and asked for a divorce . I told her that I will not divorce her and she should return my daughter.
Everybody at home was very sad because Tamara was not at home My mother was crying nonstop as if she literally lost someone. It was a very sad situation . I missed my daughter terribly but pretended that I was ok .I would wake up in the night hearing her voice ,her cries and her laughter. Everywhere I went in the house there was something to remind me of her either her toys, shoes, pram and the countless dummies or pacifiers . I could smell her , you know the after bath smell of powder and cologne or the smell of milk she burbed . Now I missed the smell of number two though I used to block my nose if I had to change her nappeis. I missed everything about her. I was restless,sleepless and was very exhausted .My chest was always congested and at times felt out of breath . I could not concentrate at work , thank God I had a very considerate boss and he was very concerned about my problems.
My parents got their strength and patience from reading a lot of Quran and duas. They would wake up at 2.00 am or 3.00 am and stay up till fajeer prayers. My sisters and brothers were all very upset. The house had been lively with the laughter and cries of a baby and now it was very quiet. Everybody used to rush home to play with Tamara. Even the maids were very sad and every time they were in tears.
We all wondered how Sara coped with Tamara because when she was at home she depended on the maid or my family to take care of Tamara. Also, Sara liked to sleep in late and Tamara was an early riser . We all worried Tamara was not being given proper care but there was not much I could do.
My lawyer advised me not to grant her a divorce and let her seek the divorce from courts, in doing so ,she will not be eligible for "maintenance". I am not against women and believe they should have rights as men,but if a woman wants to walk out on a marriage then she should be willing to forfeit the maintenance and other expenses. If she is brave enough to take this action than she should be smart enough to stand on her own two feet. Nothing comes easy in this world ,we work hard to earn so it is not easy to have somone living off you like a parasite.
Sara thrived on opening court cases, she never ceased to amaze me. She accused me of beating her which was dismissed. She was not happy so she raised another case for delaying handing over the child to her. With my lawyer, we were able to get the case dismissed too. Now Sara finished her cards so she started sending me text messages and cursing me and calling me all names under the sun. She used the dirtiest ,filthiest words, I was too ashamed to show the messages to anyone. Some were so dirty that they were only suitable for an x-rated movie.I wondered now how I could have lived with such a woman, I thought I knew her but I guess I did not. My grandmother's famous proverb " Be cautious of a purring cat,remember it has sharp claws too" came to mind. My grandmother had told me to take my time to know Sara better before I got married but I had brushed all her worldly wisdom aside because I believed then that it was not applicable to me as I knew Sara very well.Now I realize what my grandmother meant because unfortunately,Sara had only showed her sweet side but now her sharp claws were out and were painful. Hind sight is twenty- twenty and I now I regret the day I met her. My parents had seen through her, this was what they meant when they told me to marry someone of my own standard and class.I now realized that besides her good looks, Sara and I, had nothing in common. She was very uncivilized and crude and now I am paying dearly for my mistake.All that glitters is not gold, sometimes it is......
